How many times a day do you celebrate? What do you feel is worthy of celebration?
This topic has come up for me several times in the past week, so I felt like it was a great one to share in my blog, as others might also be struggling with their concept of celebration.
As a mother of two teenage children, it is not without some measure of self-disappointment, I admit we do not celebrate enough in our home. This became the subject of conversation between my spouse and me as we spent time together over the weekend running errands.
To start at the beginning, I have been attending a fantastic group called the IDE' Council, whose focus is the Divine Feminine & Celebration, for several months now. Every time we gather, we spend the first part of the evening "celebrating" ourselves with the group. I attended and IDE' Council last Thursday where we discussed Love & Celebration. The group was great, but my biggest take-away from the evening was how powerful it is to be in a safe, loving space, celebrating yourself & others. [Learn more about the IDE' Council Click Here]
Fast-forward a couple of day, and many hours mulling over and integrating this revelation, when I introduce the questions I posed at the start of this post to my partner.
"Honey, have you ever considered whether we, and I mean this in the broadest sense of the word, undervalue successes, lessons-learned, and wins? Do you think we have our standards too high when measuring what is worthy of celebration and what isn't?"
His reaction, was somewhere between stunned-into-silence and cautiously-optimistic-that-he-hadn't-forgotten-to-give-me-kudos-for-something-I-had-done, when he responded "How so?"
"Well, I have been thinking about my own level of self-celebration, as well as how I measure up as a celebrator of others, and have found myself somewhat lacking. Especially, when it comes to our children."
I then launch into all of the things I had been thinking and feeling about celebration and how I can do better celebrating the children and him. He discussed how this same issue had been coming up for him at work too, and we chatted about the differences between personal & professional lives. After a great chat, and feeling like we were in agreement, we decided to start a trial run of daily celebration. What seemed most logical was to include this celebration during our family meal, and allow everyone an opportunity to celebrate something about themselves, and something about someone else.
I'll keep you posted how this unfolds in the family, and whether I notice any shifts.
Back to the larger discussion, do we undervalue successes, lessons-learned, and wins, both in ourselves and in others? In this dog-eat-dog, only-the-strong-survive, perfection-or-bust society, have we lost sight of what is really important?
I argue that we have lost sight of what really matters - EXPERIENCE! If it is true what the Mystery Schools have been teaching, and we really are eternal spiritual beings having a physical experience, then we are literally here, on Earth, to experience this physical life! So, why then, is it so difficult for us to celebrate these experiences?
Somewhere along the way we took on the untrue lesson that we must be perfect, and that we are unlovable if we fail. However, this is a falsehood, a warped perception, and a trick of the negative ego. We are 100% responsible & capable of changing this false patterning, and freeing ourselves from this egoic block, and instead embrace our Divinity, and choose FREEDOM & LOVE.
The most effective way to do this is to recognize our fears that hold us back, and make every moment we experience one of celebration.
I for one, am ready to celebrate! What about you?